Top 5 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t (By All Means) Fall In Love with Your Best Friend

Being in love is a very happy place to be in, and even more so if you’re with the person you’re in love with almost every hour of the day. But if you’re with the person every day because you’re friends, or rather, best friends and you’re only secretly in love with the other? And unsure if the opposite feels the same? That’s a totally messy place to be in.  Here’s why:

1. 1.      Your best friend can manage to insult you in places where it really hurts. Probably, when you weren't so into the guy you wouldn't mind those jokes he throws at you about your weight, or how your feet smell. When time comes that you’re already into that person and he throws that same joke, you wouldn't take it lightly.  You would most definitely rush back to your full-body size mirror and assess yourself over and over again. It will hurt your pride.

1. 2.       Your best friend can tell you everything from how he flirted with a girl and how he made out with this other girl. Trust me you wouldn't want to live the day when you’re head over heels secretly in love with him and he tells you all the details of his mad perversion. You’d be pretending to be enjoying listening to him but deep inside you want to stab him to death and tell him: “Why do you have to flirt with that Ho!? I’m here! Flirt with me instead!” And then of course, that will be followed by self-pity. I hate that part.

1. 3.       When finally, your best friend ends up with someone else you will be completely devastated but you have to keep your cool around that person. Again, you have to pretend like you’re happy for them. You’re going to see them holding hands and kissing and all sorts of public display of affection.  That emotion is pretty heavy to lug around.

1. 4.       However, if you manage to tell the person that you are have fallen in love with him, there are only two outcomes. A) He’ll tell you he loves you too and you’ll live happily ever after. We all love to see that happen. We’re suckers for fairy-tale endings, aren’t we? B) He’ll tell you he only sees you as a friend. Ouch, but thanks for the honesty! You then ask yourself “am I really that unattractive?” Again, you resort to self-pity. No, I’m sorry, there’s a third outcome actually. C) Your best friend tells you he feels the same, but your friendship is too precious to ruin it with the complication of a relationship. Yeah, right.

1. 5.       If you are unlucky to get B or C for an answer, there’s only one way to go: Exit. You’ll have to lose your best friend. You will feel degraded and feeling demented, you’ll keep asking yourself, “how stupid could I be to fall into his charming spell?”

 Sometimes, we can’t choose who we fall in love with. When we’re lost at it, we never see what the person really is. We lose our better judgment. But despite how crappy things can get, it’s still best to keep on falling in love. Avoid closing doors, because after all, to love is to grow.